If You Only Read One Thing:

SHOOTER BOYS AND AT-RISK GIRLS. The writing on vice lately has a good argument for nepotism lately....but then Molly Crabapple goes and rectifies the situation with one of the best accounts of growing up in contemporary America I've read this side of Gen-Y :

All the strictures of childhood prevented me from becoming what I wanted to become.

If you ever felt like an outsider or an old soul, read this one. We know schools need help...but do we need to redefine childhood, too?

Husting & Insights:

Facebook's COO Sheryl Sandberg on gender stereotypes in Davos: "As a woman becomes more successful, she is less liked, and as a man becomes more successful, he is more liked."

Ladies with real jobs, do you feel like this is true? I've definitely experienced this and it's part of the reason I left the corporate world...
For you creative jerks: “Success is a pile of shit somebody stacked up real high. It means nothing.” Dear Sugar's Cheryl Strayed talks about HOW TO WRITE LIKE A MOTHERF#^@%*&.
YOUR LIFESTYLE HAS ALREADY BEEN DESIGNED. Read this if you've ever wondered why you do the things you do. (via Thought Catalog)

Sex & Love

A few weeks ago, The Atlantic brought us the hidden costs of being single. Now New York Magazine has countered with THE HIDDEN COSTS OF BEING IN A RELATIONSHIP. Guess we're all screwed...
13 REASONS WHY NICE GUYS ARE THE WORST. Apparently, Buzzfeed knows exactly why we all date assholes, right? Right...

DATA: A LOVE STORY.

Amy Webb hacked online dating data to find love. Kind of depressing that it essentially takes sophisticated quantum-mechanics to find anyone worthwhile online. (via

Brain Pickings

)

Style, Creative, & Personal

The header and photos above are from self-taught photographer, Fabio Sabatini. The set Shoulders follows --literally-- his wife Alessandra on their travels around the world. I wish someone would write me a love letter like that, sometimes. (via MyModernMet)

My dear friend @KarynPolewazcyk is a hot knife. She is over on Jezebel cutting the shit with: STOP APOLOGIZING: WHY ARE WOMEN SO SORRY ALL THE TIME? Like KNP says, take it from Madonna:
"A lot of people are afraid to say what they want. That's why they don't get what they want."

Here:

Making progress planning and filming #LOVETODAY. It's going to be a hybrid video & photo project. You can see some little scenes on my instagram if you're curious.
Speaking of photography: NOT * OTHERWISE Visual Diary - January
Then, I wrote about being an escort...sorta...HOW TO BE AN ESCORT.
And, then...I wrote about it some more: HOW TO BE AN ESCORT PART 2. Great discussions going on in the comments if you want to talk about it....

COMING UP: NAKED in PUBLIC, Part 3 of "HOW TO GET YOUR SHIRT BACK"...and maybe a little A'ing of your email / tumblr Qs. You can ask anonymously, which is handy if you've got an itch, you need me to scratch...

Xo. @JESSICABROOKMAN

PS, The lead singer of Green or Blue has a sexual voice. You can watch them play Something You Can't See on le YouTube. #yayinternet:

Become a fan on facebook- http://www.facebook.com/greenorblue Download our tunes: http://greenorblue.bandcamp.com/ https://itunes.apple.com/us/artist/green-or-blue/id561192827 Lyrics: We met I was assured That you were something worth Displacing time and mind So I flew to you to see If love was in-between Instead of boundary lines But it's something you can't see It moves without

Some Damien Jurado - NOTHING IS THE NEWS for burning the midnight oil...

Maraqopa

Also, some Little Dragon - NEVER NEVER just for good measure.